How it works
A private, consent-based way to know.
DnS lets you say, quietly and in advance: yes, if someone knows something about my relationship, I want to hear it.
Your information stays yours. Reporters never see your details, or even that you exist.
Verified reporters. Every reporter identifies themselves and takes an honesty pledge. No anonymous accusations.
No public database. Nobody can search DnS. Matching happens privately, after a report is filed.
No ads. No selling data. DnS is paid for by an annual membership, not by your information.
For members
- Create your profile. Tell us about your relationship and a few details about your partner, just enough to match a report to the right person.
- Set your preferences. Choose what you'd want to know about and how you'd like to be told.
- Live your life. Hopefully nothing ever comes of it. If a report is matched and confirmed by our review team, we let you know that something is waiting. You decide if and when to read it.
For reporters
- Identify yourself. We verify who you are and keep it confidential. It is never shared with the member.
- Take the honesty pledge. Say only what you know, say how you know it, and don't exaggerate.
- Share what you know. Describe the person and what happened, and add any evidence. We match it privately: at least two details (name, date of birth, employer, their partner's name, or a photo) must agree before a person on our team even sees it. You won't be told whether a match exists, unless you opt in to contact and it's confirmed.
What DnS is not
DnS is not a place to look people up, spread rumours, or get back at someone. Reports are reviewed before anyone sees them, and reporters who abuse the platform are removed.